- One great way to meet fellow goths to date is perhaps by going to Gothic rock shows or nightclubs. Even if there isn't an exclusively goth nightclub in your area, it's highly likely that some of the clubs in your area will host a weekly goth night. If you are in high school or college, you might be able to come across other goths at school for dating, but it will be a lot easier to find dating partners if you have more people to choose from. Another good place to meet goths for dating is at gothic fashion stores such as Hot Topic.
- Use an online service. The Internet offers many free dating services with listings of goths all over the world, country and of course, in your area. Some great examples of gothic dating websites include Goth Scene, Gothic Match and Goth Passions (see Resources below). Of course, you can also meet goth individuals on other, more broad social networking websites such as MySpaceand Facebook.
- Goths tend to bond over many shared interests, such as style and fashion, social beliefs, political issues, movies, television and of course, most importantly, music. Many people (but not all) who join the gothic subculture tend to bond over feelings such as alienation, loneliness and isolation in society. So for those reasons alone, it might be a good idea to find a fellow goth to date. After all, it's not as likely that a goth is going to have a lot in common with a football jock or someone equally different.
- A great way to bond with your goth significant other is by perhaps writing him or her gothic poetry, exchanging paintings, gothic books or even giving each other suitable gifts. Exchanging makeup products (pale foundation and dark eyeliner) or novels (Anne Rice books or anything related to vampires or Transylvania) may link you together.
- It is also important to remember never to generalize. Goths are people just like everyone else. Not all goths are going to act the same way. Not all goths are necessarily going to like dark indie rock like Bauhaus and the Cure. Not all goths are going to like sad poetry and Anne Rice novels. If you want to snag your ideal goth special someone, just be yourself, act naturally and it should all fall into place. Good luck.
